tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post4070338048404646792..comments2024-03-28T19:29:34.169-07:00Comments on Idaho Beauty's Creative Journey: AnniversariesThe Idaho Beautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09979439849662755082noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-72828711540616242402015-07-15T08:13:33.454-07:002015-07-15T08:13:33.454-07:00You've definitely been blessed, in so many way...You've definitely been blessed, in so many ways. Hugs.Cate Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04079028386218370915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-67757568042835041162015-07-14T16:02:18.231-07:002015-07-14T16:02:18.231-07:00It's amazing to me that our loved ones can spe...It's amazing to me that our loved ones can speak to us this way -- if we just open our eyes to listen. It doesn't happen everyday, which is why it's so special when it does happen. When I see a dragonfly, I know my old friend Sandy is near. I got goose-bumps reading this post. Hugs to you (again).Michele Matucheskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12162457608075358487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-12128716646261901022015-07-13T17:35:07.475-07:002015-07-13T17:35:07.475-07:00Lucia, right after my husband died I went through ...Lucia, right after my husband died I went through a period where the quilting, which I fully expected to fill the void, was lacking without him. I couldn't even work in my studio for weeks. But eventually I did find my way back and it does fill my time and keep me going. Not only that, he was always so proud of my quilting accomplishments and pushed me along. Of course, I would keep at it! And it has allowed me to make connections with so many supportive people like you. Thanks for your kind words.The Idaho Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09979439849662755082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-42232891162623393252015-07-13T17:30:51.575-07:002015-07-13T17:30:51.575-07:00Thanks, Susan, for sharing that story. For years I...Thanks, Susan, for sharing that story. For years I blocked out that week between his death and the anniversary to cut myself off from the world and focus on the things that were important to us, little things we shared - like favorite movies, songs - and to focus on a project in the studio that I felt had some connection to him. I just needed that kind of seclusion and privacy (phones off and no outside commitments) to mourn. Some years I only managed to depress myself, other years it was very cathartic, still others were actually fun. The spacing of the two events was just right for me. (I have another opportunity to when his birthday roles around in November, so the emotions get roiled up again.) But I haven't felt that need for the seclusion part for several years - not sure if that's good or bad! I suppose anytime you don't shut the living out of your life totally is ok.<br /><br />I think I would have felt worse about his death coming so near our anniversary had we not already had an early celebration - a wonderful weekend where we motorcycled to our favorite racetrack and camped on-site for a round of motorcycle racing in celebration of the upcoming 25th. If he had died before we made that trip, it would have been a lot worse. As it was, we had some unusual days of closeness leading up to the accident. I realized I had few thoughts of what we didn't get to do or say to each other and felt blessed.<br /><br />Yes, I bet you did give that couple on the beach a nudge. I think you would feel it as much whether close or spaced out. Hugs to you.The Idaho Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09979439849662755082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-13701426303882358142015-07-13T17:08:06.707-07:002015-07-13T17:08:06.707-07:00Dear Sheila, thanks for sharing your thoughts and ...Dear Sheila, thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings.<br />For me it is very poignant because I never lost my parents or siblings and i never got married. <br />But i know that your art must keep you very active and alive (i felt this since your posts about Judy).<br />But i imagine that yes, the time you had with Allen was very precious and worth.<br />Thanks again!<br /><br /><br />Lucia Sasakihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08698589553453660688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19193398.post-4353555193375966762015-07-13T16:26:47.399-07:002015-07-13T16:26:47.399-07:00It's interesting to me that we both lost our h...It's interesting to me that we both lost our husbands, whom we both dearly loved, around the time of wedding anniversaries. I haven't been able to figure out if that makes it harder or easier. One month a year to mourn all out or if it were spaced further apart would I not notice it so much?<br /><br />I was walking out at N. Beach a couple of nights ago and my across the street neighbors were also out there. I had earphones in and was listening to J. Mathis sing 99 Miles from LA, a song that always reminds me of Don and our courting days. The husband asked me what I listening to and when I told him sort of stared at me so I told them my story behind that particular song....teary moments later from all of us, I walked on and they were holding hands. Perhaps it was a useful nudge for them.<br /><br />SSusan Sawatzkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06913264107055661374noreply@blogger.com